I'll bet every one of us knows a woman who seems to live a charmed life. For some reason we are quite sure that her plumbing never clogs, her landscaping thrives and she manages to look like she is always having a fabulous time."? Every thing is fabulous: her home, her hair, her children, her social life, and even her little dog are fffffabulous.

Instead of being genuinely happy for her, like some of us you may harbor secrets thoughts, but why is it that we don't feel like we can have, be and do fabulous too?"?

"?After coaching several elite woman in their fields, which included a couple of beauty queens, CEO's and professional women earning impressive seven figure incomes, here's what I found out".they"? all managed to schedule what they wanted in life."?

So have we heard this before? Scheduling time for ourselves"?? Does the word impossible come to mind?"? Well, even though we all want to have more time, few of us are really willing to make ourselves a priority and "selfishly" take a few minutes to re-examine how we are allocating our lives with a fresh attitude of change and possibilities

Somehow "it" seems to "?always reserved for the other person, the ones who married well, went to the right college, have a trust fund or fell into a great "deal". The fact is, the only real difference between them and us is they get what the EXPECT, not what they necessarily deserve."?

Unfortunately for most of us, we've been conditioned to think that if we just keep slugging it out, working harder, longer and even smarter things will change".but it ain't workin!"? What's really interesting is that if we don't consider ourselves a priority, why should anyone else? And then we feel resentful when they don't!

I'm not suggesting there is an "instant" fix for years of fractured thinking."? I do, however, see how helping women focus on their positive power makes a measurable difference in their confidence level both personally and professionally, not to mention how other people treat them. Simply, we are more in power when we are rested, well and centered.' We are much more prepared to be more organized, better negotiators and more in sync with our personal power when dealing with cranky buyers and sellers when we have ourselves in better shape,

The universal laws of physics actually kick in here. You can't have what you don't see yourself having."? You can't be healthy if you dwell on your illness. You can't drop a few pounds if you focus on how you can't drop a few pounds."? You create your own reality by your thoughts"so it begs the question"how is your thinking?

If you think you are frazzled, you might very well be, but switching from victim to action puts you on the right track."? It just might be time for your "Annual Mental Attitude Check-Up" and review."? You might ask yourself these questions:

1) Am I putting my needs first today?"? Did you rush out of the house without breakfast, or even 10 minutes worth of quiet time to get centered?"? There is no way you can perform customer miracles when you aren't up to the challenge physically and mentally. People want to be with a person who illuminates their time together instead of sapping the energy and enthusiasm of others.

2) What is my plan for the day, week, or month?"? Have I already blocked out planning time for personal and professional objectives, or am I relying on "winging" it again this month?

"?3) What one thing can I do right now to help "re-frame" my thinking with positive action instead of a negative reaction?"? Perhaps it is as simple as buying a single flower for your desk to help as a reminder that this is your day in your life, and only you can write the script for your experiences."? Focusing on what you want instead of what you don't want is tough, and annoyingly simple".

My surveys indicate that women in business have employed"?definite steps"? to change"?their "?focus from grim to glorious simply by"?"allowing" time in their daily schedules for"?real life."? For many of us, we just never give ourselves permission to allow normal things like eating lunch or taking a real "coffee break" in our day to day scheduling.' You might encounter a demanding customer, but a person with reasonably healthy self esteem is more likely to say with confidence, "I'm already booked out at that time. Are you available later in the afternoon?" - Sounds easy, eh?

Here's a sampling of some sage responses from my recent"? Women's Wisdom Network"?survey's that have kept more than a few women stay sane"?with insane schedules:

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Take a simple walk,"? enjoy a quiet of a cup of tea, or coffee OUTSIDE of the office, call "?or connect with an old friend, read something inspirational from your favorite author, take a few minutes for lunch...you deserve it and you know for a fact most men wouldn't go hungry without being sure they took time out for a meal!

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These are just a few ideas"?I've received from"?busy women that has helped them to "?re-energize"?their souls and to create and design a"?more meaningful, joyful and productive life. A few minutes of self-attention are a good start to make the conscious choice of frazzled or fabulous"

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So how about we swap a few ideas, concepts, systems, tips or resources that make the huge load we seem to consistently take on both at work and at home a bit easier...any super women out there willing to share?

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